Hi guys!
Recently I've been having a discussion with one of my friends who "came out" as bisexual. This person is also going through a rough breakup with their once significant other. My friend, whom I'll refer to herein as X, said they I was the first person they came out to (I am LGBT friendly btw), and they wanted to come out to their family and some friends. I asked X why they felt the need to come out. I got the feeling that this is just the process that LGBT people feel they have to go through. I wasn't sure where "coming out of the closet" originated from, so here's what Wikipedia (my true love) had to say: "Framed and debated as a privacy issue, coming out of the closet is described and experienced variously as: a psychological process or journey; decision-making or risk-taking; a strategy or plan; a mass or public event; a speech act and a matter of personal identity; a rite of passage; liberation or emancipation from oppression; a means toward feeling gay pride instead of shame and social stigma; or even career suicide... The present-day expression "coming out" is understood to have originated in the early 20th century from an analogy that likens homosexuals’ introduction into gay subculture to a débutante’s coming-out party. This is a celebration for a young upper-class woman who is making her début – her formal presentation to society – because she has reached adult age or has become eligible for marriage. As historian George Chauncey points out:
"'Gay people in the pre-war years [pre-WWI]... did not speak of coming out of what we call the gay closet but rather of coming out into what they called homosexual society or the gay world, a world neither so small, nor so isolated, nor... so hidden as closet implies.'
"An article on coming out in the online encyclopedia glbtq.com states that sexologist Dr. Evelyn Hooker’s observations introduced the use of 'coming out' to the academic community in the 1950s. The article continues by echoing Chauncey's observation that a subsequent shift in connotation occurred later on. The pre-1950’s focus was on entrance into 'a new world of hope and communal solidarity' whereas the post-Stonewall Riots overtone was an exit from the oppression of the closet. This change in focus suggests that 'coming out of the closet' is a mixed metaphor that joins 'coming out' with the closet metaphor: an evolution of 'skeleton in the closet' specifically referring to living a life of denial and secrecy by concealing one’s homosexual or bisexual orientation. The closet metaphor, in turn, is extended to the forces and pressures of heterosexist society and its institutions."
Anyway, my discussion with X led to me telling them a few things: 1) I don't believe any LGBT should have to come out. What's the point? By doing so, it's like you're admitting you're doing something wrong to everyone you come out to. Why would you ever do something that negates yourself and cuts yourself down so much? That's like if you were a girl, feeling bad/guilty for being a girl, or feeling bad about admitting you're a Star Wars fan even though you love Star Wars. It's retarded. You are what you are, fuck what everyone else things, don't be ashamed of yourself. 2) Do straight people ever come out to gay people? No. This whole thing started because of Christianity. Some guy up in the sky said (or at least people claim he said) that people of the same sex cannot "lay" together. Because of the generally hostile type of people that religion created, now everyone who is LGBT is made to feel like alien, a criminal, a deviant. BULLSHIT!!!
If you're gay, you're gay. I don't care, you shouldn't care, and neither should anybody else. Fuck christians on this topic. Go have gay sex in front of their churches and temples. Teach them how to be Christ-like and accepting of everyone, because they're obviously not learning it inside those buildings. You go girl!
- s.
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